Saturday, May 29, 2010

The Lord Mends a Family

I am going to share an amazing story with you, but first I need to introduce to you my friend, Greta. It's amazing how I met my new friend. I moved into my new house in March and I had my carpets cleaned before I moved in. As we were moving in, I noticed that there were a lot of spots that remained on my carpet. I called the company to let them know and they rescheduled me to have them resteamed. This time they sent a new carpet cleaner and this was a divine appointment for me.

While the carpet cleaner was at my house cleaning, he noticed that I was reading the bible. He asked what book I was reading and I said, "The bible." I laugh about it now because he knew it was a bible, but he wanted to know what book of the bible I was reading! We chatted a little bit about God and he finished up the job and started to pack his truck up. On his way out, he handed me a card with his wife's name and phone number on it. He told me to call her that she was a great prayer warrior and she would be able to pray for me and stand on the Word if there was anything that I was praying about. I thanked him for the card and shut the door behind him. Now my nature is I wouldn't call the person and then I would put the card down somewhere and when I really needed to call the lady, I wouldn't be able to find the card. So out of my comfort zone, I called her. I introduced myself and told her that her husband had given me her card and I wanted to call and introduce myself. It's so amazing how God brings people into your life. The very first time we talked, I knew we were going to be friends. We prayed together on the phone and each of us shared a little bit about each other. We continued to call each other now and again and every time I called her, she told me that she had been praying for me. I really appreciated that. I really enjoyed talking with her.

To this day, I have never seen Greta face to face. We have only talked on the phone. I love it how God binds together the family of God. Its as if I have known her for years.

One day, she sent me a link on facebook and it was her testimony. Friends, this testimony is all to the glory of God and a great reminder to know the Word of God and what God says. Psalm 119:89 Forever, O Lord, Your Word is settled in heaven. We need to remember to take our eyes off of the situation and fix our eyes on the truth of God's Word. With Greta's permission, I am about to share one of the most radical redemptions of a family I have ever heard.

God Heals Broken Families - My Story
By Greta


I must admit it's embarrassing to have my mistakes laid out for the world to see. Some people know this story, but now you all will. What makes it worth your time and consideration? Because we all have the same thing in common. We are hopelessly broken and incapable of reaching God on our own. The good news is God reached down to us. He sent His son, Jesus to redeem you and me. This story is about why I am personally in need of my Savior. No, our stories may not be the same, but you are personally in need of my Savior too. This story is about what He did for me and my family. He is able and willing to do the same or even greater for you.

I don't think anyone gets married thinking they're going to eventually get divorced. No, that's what happens to other people. You know, the ones who did it all wrong. Not us. I mean we did it all right - both committed Christians, virgins, pre-marriage counseling, good job, no debt. So how, then, after just 3 ½ years did we find ourselves at a crossroads? That intersection where you realize what you thought you were getting isn't what you have. Disillusionment, disappointment, dissatisfaction. Well, since we weren't those other people who get divorced we stuck it out for two more years. Two more miserable years. Two more years of ignoring the very real problems we had and watching the distance go from a gap to a chasm. By the time my eyes were opened to the chasm, Carl had already checked out emotionally and spiritually. We may have been sleeping in the same bed but we were strangers.

I've tried a million times to figure out how something that started so right could go so wrong. I can see a myriad of contributing factors - immaturity, depression, being overwhelmed by responsibility - house, babies, Carl's long hours. But as I've prayed and asked God to show me where exactly things went wrong something finally came to me. "You lost your first love." I'm not talking about "the one that got away." I'm talking, quite frankly, about Jesus. Yes, I was a Christian. I was going to church regularly, involved in Bible studies, even a couples' one with Carl. But in the depths of my heart there was an inadequacy that invaded every part of my life and left me dissatisfied with everything. I became so weighed down with the cares of this world that I virtually ignored my husband and his needs and sank into misery.

Not surprisingly, Carl had had enough. The funny thing is even to this day, he has always said there's no legitimate reason for divorce. It all goes back to hardness of heart - my heart, your heart, our hearts. Now everyone says it takes two to tango and that for every divorce both parties are to blame. Unless, of course, there's adultery, and then the adulterer is always the one to blame, right? Wouldn't it be easy if it were that simple? See, when Carl left he immediately got involved with someone else. There you go, they were home wreckers, bent on destroying our "happy" family. Now I had everyone's support to find myself a "better" man, one who would play the part the right way and be faithful no matter what. No matter what. Carl's regret is that he didn't have the resolve to stick it out no matter what. To just pursue God no matter what. The problem is that pesky "no matter what" issue. The one that seems to follow us women around like a filthy rag. The one that excuses us every time we criticize our husbands for not doing enough to help us out around the house, for not taking enough interest in the kids, for not working hard enough so we can have all the things we need (WANT). The one that neglects/rejects their physical and emotional needs, disrespecting their hard work and provision for our families. You know, the one that justifies all our misconduct. And we have the gall to shame them for not being faithful no matter what.

Am I excusing unfaithfulness? By no means! Am I excusing myself? I cannot! When Carl left I was ready for him to go. I obviously wasn't making him happy, so I encouraged him to leave and go be with someone who would. Unfortunately, that someone was also married. Over the weeks and months that followed, God began to deal with me in a way I had longed for my whole life. He let me stew for a few weeks, trying to figure out on my own what I was going to do. My girlfriends hung out with me and let me cry and try to be strong and vent. Truthfully, they were furious with Carl for leaving and getting involved with someone else. (They should have been furious with me as well). That's a major reason why I knew what happened next was the Lord speaking directly to me. I remember the day like it was yesterday. I got a phone call from one of those mad girlfriends saying she felt she had to tell me God did NOT want me to give up on my marriage. I hung up the phone thoroughly unconvinced. As soon as I hung up my other girlfriend called and said pretty much the same thing. Knowing how angry both of them were, I knew there was no way they would have told me this unless it was really from God. I was starting to take notice. As soon as I hung up the phone, it rang a third time. This time it was my mom and she said the exact same thing as my girlfriends. She also encouraged me to call her best friend who happened to belong to a prayer group for people who were separated or divorced but believed God could heal their families. Now, anyone who knows me will tell you I'm one of the most strong-willed, stubborn people they know. But even the hard headed can recognize when God is trying to get their attention. From that moment, He called me away on an extremely difficult journey, but the best I've ever been on! He called me to Himself. And this journey began with repentance. He didn't seem immediately concerned with where Carl was or what he was doing. He was concerned with the state of my heart and my own sin. He began to open my eyes to all the ways I had disrespected and neglected my husband, not to mention the ways I had disrespected and neglected Him. I also saw the sin of encouraging my husband and the other woman to become involved. I called her and told her I was wrong and that I wanted to try to make it work with him. I asked her to walk away. She didn't. They stayed together for two years, buying a house together and planning to marry once we were divorced. It was the toughest two years of my life, learning to trust God with my heart and my future. What would become of us? How embarrassing that I was now one of those other people. One of those single mothers. I left college to get married. I was a stay-at-home mom and had been all my kids' lives. How would they not fall apart if I left them to get a job? What kind of job could I get that would afford daycare? Step by step God met every need we had. I became involved with that prayer group my mom's friend belonged to and those women taught me more than I ever thought possible. They were excellent mentors, unbelievably devoted to God's Word and seeing their families restored. They introduced me to Rejoice Marriage Ministries, a ministry dedicated to helping heal broken families God's way.

I sure messed up a lot those first years. I discovered that taking God at His Word meant acting on my faith. However, when you're learning to act sometimes you become really obnoxious. Carl and I would get into horrible fights because of something I would say, the exact thing Rejoice was teaching to avoid. What can I say, I had a lot to learn! I continued to pray for Carl and the other woman to repent and leave one another. Her husband actually joined our prayer group also. He was in the military and was getting ready to be stationed in Germany. His wife and Carl were on the verge of breaking up and she was seriously contemplating going back to her husband. But at the last minute she decided to stay and he had to leave without her. We were all greatly disappointed, but not devastated. God had begun to show me through prayer and His Word that He wanted to heal my family and that He wanted me to remain faithful to the covenant that we had made with one another and God the day we were married. I remained faithful all that time, wearing my wedding ring, being very careful not to be in inappropriate situations with other men. I asked God how He wanted me to treat Carl and He told me to treat him like my husband because that's who he was. So every chance I got I let him know how much I loved him. When he'd come over I would make him food or show him affection - I wanted him to see the changes God was making in me. I knew if I kept my distance because he was involved with someone else that he would never see how sorry I was. It would be no different than what made him want to leave in the first place. He says that even though he had no intentions of ever coming back that seeing my life genuinely change gave him hope.

Most people think that when a person becomes involved in adultery they completely turn their backs on God. Truthfully, many do. But I think we become very shortsighted when we assume all do. Carl knew that his relationship with the other woman was sinful. That's part of what frustrated me so much. He would say adultery is wrong, divorce is wrong, but he was going to do it anyway. He felt defeated and he just gave up on us. A friend's testimony gave me great hope. She told me how when she was a young Christian she had been involved in an adulterous relationship and that God was working on her heart the whole time until she eventually repented and left the relationship. I saw that even though Carl was in adultery he did love the Lord and God was still busy working on him. I continued to pray and to show him love and respect every chance I got.

After two years, though, the inevitable finally happened. Divorce! Carl put it off for so long I hoped and prayed the day would never come. But it did. That night I cried my eyes out. I remember asking God who would cover me now. I had gone from my parents' covering straight to my husband's. Even though he had been gone for two years we were still married. This felt so final and I felt so naked and alone. I asked God again how He wanted me to treat Carl. Did the divorce change anything from God's perspective? I clearly felt Him speak to my heart that Carl was still my husband in His eyes and that was how I was to continue treating him. He also lead me to Isaiah 54:4-8! I encourage you to take the time to read this passage. You will see that God is a compassionate redeemer. He still had a plan to redeem my relationship with Carl.

Something unexpected happened after the divorce. I found myself surprisingly free. Free from my commitment to stand? No! Free from the looming doom - the impending devastation I thought I would feel if I ever had to see that horrible day come. It came and went and God renewed His promise to me. He assured me that He was indeed greater than the state of Arizona or their ridiculous "no-fault divorces" that are handed out like candy. (I've heard AZ has the highest divorce rate in the nation). God was NOT going to force Carl to come back. He was, however, drawing him back with the very thing he truly wanted - a Godly wife. Not long after the divorce the other woman left Carl and remarried her husband, whom she had also divorced, eventually joining him in Germany. There was so much excitement! Prayers had been answered. It seemed only a matter of time now and we'd be back together too. What a relief to not only have her back with her own husband, but half the world away! I wish I could say we fell madly in love and remarried too - that comes later - 1 ½ years later. Carl was nearly devastated over the breakup and sought comfort in another ungodly relationship. As soon as I found out about her I felt God tell me it would come to nothing. It's awesome how God can look into the future and declare something as good as done. This new relationship was very tumultuous. God was continuing to bring lasting change to my life in the meantime. I finally had the relationship with God that I had always desired but never found. He was my best friend and, in spite of my circumstances, I had a great deal of peace and joy. I realized that whether Carl ever came back or not God and I would be just fine. I also realized I wasn't Carl's mother or the Holy Spirit, I was his helper. It wasn't my job to change him, it was God's. Carl says that was a major turning point for him. He knew my life had truly changed from the inside out. We continued spending time together. He was still involved with the other woman, but I knew he was unhappy with her. She treated him very badly. One of his co-workers knew everything about us, about the other women, and that I was standing for restoration and he actually told Carl I was going to win. It made me smile because I knew it was true. God in me was winning back God in Carl. Carl, however, would still have told you that he was never coming back even to the day before Thanksgiving 2003, when he called me up out of the blue and said he might like to give our marriage a shot. Wow! I was so caught off guard. Not because I didn't believe it would happen someday, but because I had no idea it would happen that day. What a reason to give thanks!

Now here's something you need to understand - sometimes repentance comes in a flood, all at once. But sometimes, it comes a little piece at a time. Sin can be very stubborn. And Satan doesn't like to give up his captives easily. That woman had little regard for Carl while he was with her, but as soon as his heart turned home she dug her claws in and fought to keep him away from me. Here I am in the world's eyes divorced. As for me, I remained faithful to my vows, even after the state nullified our marriage. I sought God's opinion and His Word states, "what God has put together let no man separate." So, when my husband wanted to come home, even if it was a little piece at a time, I knew it was honorable to God, like the prodigal son whose father had been anxiously waiting and watching for the day his son would return. When he saw his boy on the horizon he ran to him with open arms and threw a party in his honor. What a wonderful example God gave us in Scripture of His own reaction to us when we even take one step toward home. He meets us ready to forgive and restore.

We renewed our vows July 25, 2004. It hasn't been an easy road back. We have definitely seen God's blessing, but it has taken work. Most people rejoiced that we were together again. Others found it difficult to forgive, but God is healing those relationships with time and truth. We lost a child along the way, a baby girl named Hope, who was too premature to survive. She was a great and painful loss. They say most marriages don't survive the death of a child, let alone one that's on the mend, but God has been the glue that has held us together. We have a much different relationship than we did before. We have become best friends. We encourage and support one another, handle disagreements and conflicts with respect. We cherish one another. I must say, that's pretty darn cool! But most importantly, our relationships with Christ are solid. After all we've been through and seen God do in our lives we have been forever changed. I share this testimony with you to encourage you. Christ must be your first love - above your spouse, above your kids, your job, your church, everything. He is a jealous God, jealous for your devotion and affection. When He is first, most other relationships tend to straighten themselves out, but even if they don't He is completely sufficient to meet every need you have. He is a restorer of broken lives. We are living proof! To Him be the glory forever and ever. Amen.

Sunday, May 9, 2010

My Mom, by Chad Gallego

Chad wrote this for me for Mother's Day

My Mom

by Chad Gallego

I love my mom,
My mom is sweet,
She greatly deserves a Heavenly treat.
I imagine her sitting next to the throne,
With her around we have spiritually grown.
She shines brighter than Times Square,
She treats us all with loving care.
She may not be good at stuff like art,
But in God's eyes she is extremely smart.
She loves the Lord with all of her heart,
And stops the Devil's fiery darts.
She walks with God day and night,
And bravely fights the spiritual fight.
She wisely knows right from wrong,
And "Born Again" is her favorite praise song.
I've seen prayer warriors, lots of prayer warriors,
But none like her,
I know for a fact, I am sure.
I thank you for bringing me into this life,
You always went through hardships and lots of strife.
Sometimes you fell,
But no, you got back up and raised us well.
We all recognize that she doesn't have a phony disguise,
She is the way she is, and we'll love her even when she dies.

Saturday, May 8, 2010

Happy Mother's Day, Mom

I’ll Never Forget...You Were There For Me

I’ll never forget my childhood and how much fun we used to have. I used to think you must have gotten so bored being home with us all the time. Little did I know, you gave up everything to give me the best. At every volleyball game, softball game, Christmas program, award ceremony, and for every sniffle...

You were there for me, mom.

I’ll never forget those nights I suffered with asthma. I would wake up to that scared look on your face knowing there was nothing you could do for me. Somehow you always made me feel better. You would just rub my back and cry with me...

You were there for me, mom.

I’ll never forget my rebellious teenage years when I wouldn’t listen to you. I was doing my own thing and you tried so hard to say the right things to help me. I chose my own way and treated you disrespectfully. But through it all, you loved me...

You were there for me, mom.

I’ll never forget taking off on weekends to go and visit Aunt Ellen or taking trips to the cabin. I remember how much fun we would have on the drive there and how hard we laughed when the waitress at the Chinese restaurant couldn’t pronounce Pepsi...

You were there for me, mom.

I’ll never forget you running through the hospital in Phoenix when I was delivering the twins, your first grandchildren. It was your 33rd wedding anniversary and you chose to get on a plane to come and see this grand event. I’ll never forget you holding your grandchildren for the first time...

You were there for me, mom.

I’ll never forget how much you helped me when my babies were born. You stayed with me and fed the babies, changed diapers, and stayed up at night just so I could sleep. And when you pulled your clothes out of the suitcase when you got home, you cried when you saw the little bootie stuck to your shirt...

You were there for me, mom.

I’ll never forget when I was down and out and had no one to turn to...two little boys to take care of, no money, and no place to live. You took us in and gave us a place to live and encouraged me to pick myself up and get back on my feet...

You were there for me, mom.

I’ll never forget my college graduation. I saw you in the crowd like I’d seen so many times before. Your little twin grandsons were sitting beside you. I saw you take pictures when they called my name and I took hold of that diploma...

You were there for me, mom.

I’ll never forget my wedding day. What a beautiful day for a wedding. Out in the crowd, I saw you again…like all the other times. I could see in your eyes how happy you were for me. You made my day complete just being there to share my day...

You were there for me, mom.

I’ll never forget as I ponder all of these memories. They come flooding back to me like a river. I treasure each of them in my heart and mom, on this Mother’s Day, I want you to know, I love you...and I will never forget...

You were there for me, mom.

Tragedy Hits Close to Home

On April 20th, my dear homeschool friend, Andrea Schlecht, was faced with a huge challenge in her family. My friends, this is a beautiful family, and I was so touched by their faith and love for the Lord and one another, I was compelled to share it with all of you. With the permission of the Schlecht family, I want to share a story of that has changed me forever…

On the morning of April 20th, my dear friend Andrea received a call at the homeschool that her husband Trent's mother, Lorrie, his sister, Casie (who was nine months pregnant at the time), and his 4 year old niece, Caia, were involved in a very serious car accident.

Upon arrival to the hospital, Lorrie was rushed to surgery, but was unable to survive and hours later, little Caia passed away from severe injuries. We were so shocked and saddened by this event. Casie had a severely fractured pelvis but the next day, April 21st, she delivered a beautiful baby girl, Camerin Elise.

This was a a terrible thing that happened, but through it all, the Lord has moved in my heart on so many different levels following these events that I am forever changed. I invite you to share in reading some of the emails that I received from Wayne Schlecht, who is Lorrie’s husband, Casie’s father, and Caia’s grandfather. I will never be the same after experiencing such an outpouring of trust in the Lord and a testimony of the love that they had for one another.


EMAIL FROM WAYNE SCHLECHT, April 21, 2010

As you may have heard, or may have not have heard – my most treasured Bride, Lorrie, and our special granddaughter, Caia, have been called Home by our Lord and Savior!!

Tuesday April 20th Casie Lea, the unborn baby {Camerin}, Lorrie and Caia were involved in a most tragic accident at Harrison and 22nd at approximately 8:45am. As a result of the other vehicle running through a red light Caia’s neck was instantly snapped, my Bride’s pelvic region, rib cage area and heart were severely injured and Casie Lea’s pelvic area and rib cage areas suffered fractures. The unborn baby was protected and not injured as much as we can tell at this time.

--Lorrie was immediately routed into surgery – but was unable to survive
--Caia joined her Grandma hand-in-hand into the presence of Jesus Christ and the Kingdom of God !
--Casie Lea has been moved into UMC’s Labor and Delivery, and her baby will be most likely delivered first thing Wednesday morning

To all of you who came to UMC in support of me, Chris, Casie Lea, Trent, Andrea and our entire family – I thank you from the bottom of my heart for blessing us with your presence, your love, your prayers and your care!!! And for all of you who were unable to join us – I only request that you keep all of us in your prayers!

I am writing this as I am unable to sleep, and as we all can imagine – some of the most traumatic and trying times are still ahead of this family. I literally feel already crippled without my Bride, and the void of having little Caia running amongst us is devastating. And then to see my Nando, Kristen and Nessie so crushed by the loss of their cousin and grandma burns a hole in my heart!!!

However, I know this is but a temporary stay for us, and that someday soon our Lord will return for the rest of us!! I so look forward to that day! I pray that our Lord will use this tragedy to capture just one soul, if not many, for his Kingdom, and I thank all of you for your LOVE!!

In closing, I would also ask that you please pray for the individual who was driving the other vehicle. In spite of anything which was done wrong by this person, he is still sorely in need of peace and comfort, and it can only be provide by our God!

Dear Lord … please be with all of us, and through it all – please permit us to be steadfast witnesses for you!

Wayne
{I miss you my beloved Bride … and I will always have Sammy Eyes for you, my Lorrie, and for you, our Caia}

Note: It is 2:26am, and the phone just rang – Casie Lea’s water just broke, and I am going back to the hospital to be with her and Chris, in place of Lorrie!!! New LIFE is on its way!!!

Love you all!!!
Good day to you all …

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EMAIL FROM WAYNE SCHLECHT, April 24, 2010


Unbelievable!!!! The outpouring of LOVE and SUPPORT for the Schlecht/Roden families in these past three days has been nothing but miraculous!!!! We have heard from such lovely folks that have heard it from a friend of a friend, another family member or through so many prayer chains across the globe!!! Not one of your replies are taken for granted – not one of them – and we thank you so very much for your prayers and well wishes!!!

My son said it so well – he said “folks continuously ask us what can they do for you, and you simply have to reply with … you are already doing it tenfold through your loving support of providing us with well wishes and PRAYERS”.

Out of all the tragedies that have been experienced from this one collision comes a joyful event! Camerin Elise Roden was born to Casie Lea and Chris Roden at 9:am Tuesday April 21st. She was a mere 9 lbs. 2 oz., and 21 inches long. Folks, she is perfect, … and yes, I realize that I am submitting a biased report here!

Casie Lea battled for a tremendously long time to deliver Camerin naturally, but having suffered such pain from not only her contractions, but also from her shattered pelvis and broken ribs she finally begged for the most dreaded forceps! The doctor literally pulled on that newborn just short of placing his foot against the bed as he strained to get her to come out – literally pulled with all arm and upper body strength that he could muster {I was there with Chris holding my daughter’s hand – a task that my Bride was to do - but then I gladly filled in for her}. When that head finally greeted the world she instantly popped out a very PERFECT baby – literally a perfect baby with NO ill effects from the forceps.

Then the most apprehensive time came. Camerin Elise was immediately scheduled for an eye examination to see if Retinoblastoma existed in her eyes as a result of Casie Lea having the same cancer, and as a result of Caia having it in both of her eyes. Before I tell you what the doctors found in Camerin Elise’s eyes I want to impress upon you that family and all of those at the hospital {amongst many others who could not be there} turned those new born eyes over to our Lord. If Camerin Elise were to have the same disease {50/50 chance} we all were prepared to rejoice in the addition of yet another little child who would battle cancer, all the while being a witness for Christ. And, we would keep the issue in the Lord’s hands for future safe keeping and healing. Now, if she did not have the disease … we were prepared to rejoice in Christ for allowing Casie Lea, Chris and Camerin Elise to have two eyeballs which would be spared such procedures and pain that Caia Nicole and her parents had to endure for her two big beautiful brown eyes, a battle which was waged for over Caia Nicole’s entire lifetime {4-years} and which was won through prayer and relentless efforts of Casie Lea, Chris, family and friends.

Folks … Camerin Elise at this time is CANCER FREE!!!

Her eye examination came back absolutely free of any cancer. OUR LORD IS MAGNIFICENT, and all praise, glory and thanks go to HIM!!! What an answer to prayer. The next step is for Casie Lea and Chris to complete the second phase of already begun genetics testing to see if Camerin Elise has or does not have Casie Lea’s mutated gene, and if she does not – we ALL brush our hands of the whole lifetime of EUAs/MRIs and go forward with serving our Lord in a whole host of other ways, and yet, if she may have the mutated gene – we then remain diligent in performing the required EUAs and MRIs for purposes of pouncing all over whatever cancer wishes to set up home in these newborn eyeballs, and will remain steadfast in trusting our Lord through it all, as we did with Caia Nicole!!

And now, today we go to the hospital to celebrate Casie Lea’s 34th birthday, and to encourage her as she tries so hard to sit up, stand and take little shuffle steps. If she is able to accomplish these small feats she will be permitted to come home. And once she is able to come home we then can memorialize our most beloved Lorrie and Caia Nicole. We will not rush Casie Lea, however, IF SHE IS ABLE TO COME HOME soon we then will target {please remember that this is only a tentative date at this time} Thursday April 29th {at 1:pm} at Pantano Christian Church {29th street and Houghton} for celebrating our LORD, and for the time we were permitted to be with Lorrie and Caia Nicole. All are welcome to attend, and I will be sure to confirm the actual date as soon as I possibly can.

One more issue to address. I am uncomfortable in presenting this, and I only do so as so many folks are asking. With regard to flowers – there is no need to direct your hard earned dollars towards such a spend. If you feel strongly about contributing, please do so ONLY if you are moved to do so, and then I would suggest that you consider going to www.caialorrie.com. This account has been set up by Chris’ most loving and supportive colleagues. There is word that the other driver did not have insurance, and medical bills for both families are anticipated to be extraordinary. But again, ONLY if you were going to spend monies on flowers.


In closing … our Lord is an awesome God, and He has been magnificent in taking care of us through all that has taken place since this past Tuesday. Everyone has been so willing to assist the Schlecht – Roden families, and UMC has been absolutely awesome!!! Every last UMC staff member has treated our visitors, us, and especially Lorrie and Caia Nicole with utmost respect, dignity and a desire to assist in any way possible. A group of friends and family were preparing to join hands in prayer as little Camerin Elise was about to go into her eye examination, and a number of nurses came down the hallway. Our group stepped back to let them pass, and they said “no, no, we are here to join you in prayer”!!! AWESOME! The entire hospital is aware of what has occurred, and they have been doing all they can do in order to accommodate Casie Lea, Chris and Camerin Elise!!

We have a great God, and we never cease to praise Him!!!

I absolutely love and thank ALL of you …


Wayne Schlecht

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EMAIL FROM WAYNE SCHLECHT, April 27, 2010

Hello to all of you …

“Exhausted …”, that is the best way to describe how we are feeling at this time. I look forward to completing this update, and then I will happily lay my head to my pillow in the hopes of gaining a small portion of beauty sleep {good luck on that one, Schlecht}!

We brought Casie Lea, Chris and Camerin Elise home today. What a milestone this is considering as of yesterday Casie Lea was only able to inch her right foot forward by doing incremental land grabs with her toes only. She is now able to slowly and methodically lift those two feet in a very determined motion in order to swiftly gain approximately 6 inches at a time! A snail could pass her, all the while creating a back draft cold enough to give her a bit of a shiver! But nonetheless, she has made fantastic strides in getting her banged up body to start functioning such that she is able to navigate the homestead right now as long as three of the Schlecht/Roden guys are standing by in order to assist her in standing, using a walker to get to a wheelchair, and then to wheel her to the restroom, couch or a bed.

We are rejoicing that she is ABLE to come home to us, and that little Camerin Elise is eating well and sleeping most of the time! What a treasure from God – a little one who is healthy!

So, now that Casie Lea has arrived home we have definitively set Thursday April 29th @ 1:pm as my Bride’s and Caia Nicole’s memorial service to be conducted at Pantano Christian Church – Houghton and 29th Street {far east Tucson }. Immediately thereafter we will be having a ‘celebratory reception’ at the same location as well. All who have a desire to attend are most certainly welcome.

When attending, please be prepared for one thing … my Bride would not recognize me if I were to dress up – therefore, I will be arriving in my ‘ Tucson Sunday best CASUAL attire’. You are more than welcome to dress formally if you wish, however, it will be dress jeans, shirt and boots for me. In other words, please be relaxed when attending the “Lorrie – Caia Nicole” Memorial Service.

Another day completed, Lord – I thank you so much for all your love, your care, and for never leaving our sides since Tuesday April 20th. Through our faith in You, we are weathering the storm, dear God, and we appeal to You that our situation provides for a conduit for many souls to be strengthened towards, or won over to Your Kingdom! Good night Lord – and if you wouldn’t mind, would you please consider wrapping your warm, reassuring protective arms around me as I put forth every effort to sleep …? Thank you.

Sincerely …

Wayne

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EMAIL FROM WAYNE SCHLECHT, May 1, 2010

Lorrie’s and Caia Nicole’s Service:

Ohhh, how much we needed that opportunity to take time to remember our beloved Lorrie and Caia Nicole. There were so many family and friends in attendance, including folks we did not even know {word has it that there were close to 800 people who came to Pantano Christian Church for the service}. Folks came from Tucson , and they came from afar, to remember our two beautiful ladies, and we shall forever be grateful for the outpouring of love from all of you! For those of you who were unable to be there, it was absolutely a remarkable remembrance of our two Ladies, and it was most definitely a celebration of our Lord! Even though it was quite taxing on those of us who were able to say a few words, the entire service and reception was still an opportunity for all of us to share and to support each other through our memories, and through our faith!


Pantano Christian Church {PCC}:

There are no words available to me which could adequately express the Schlecht’s and Roden’s heartfelt appreciation for what PCC’s staff did for our families! They did anything and everything possible in support of us, and we thank them from the depths of our appreciative hearts!

Camerin Elise Roden:

SLEEPS!!!! Then she seeks sustenance – then she SLEEPS!!!

Casie Lea:

Casie Lea is still in great pain – but there are signs of progress! She is producing more and more humorous attitude, and her physical therapy is keeping her on a steady ascent of improved capabilities in walking, sitting, standing and sneezing!

Chris, Casie Lea and Camerin Elise Roden:

Have moved. Yes, as if the past two weeks have not already been filled with mind boggling challenges, the kids also moved into their newly acquired homestead! They are now only three miles away from Trent and Andrea’s family. As you can imagine, this is such a good situation, which allows for Andrea and Casie Lea to be close to each other for support.

The actual move was performed by over seventeen men and women; four trailers, eight trucks, tons of drinks, morning made waffles and an afternoon hoagie sandwich! Never have I been a part of a move such as this one. Then, to top it off, a number of men and women remained at the new homestead in order to assist Casie Lea and Chris in getting the boxes unpacked! What a great group of family and friends, and I thank each and everyone of you who had a part in this endeavor!!

Trent, Andrea, Nando, Kristen and Janessa:

Have been absolute pillars of support! Even though these kids have lost a mother, grandmother, niece and cousin, they have been tremendous in overseeing so many events which have been keeping our families moving forward! Trent and Andrea – we love you to no end, and we appeal to you to now please take time for your own family!!!

The entire Schlecht-Roden Family:

We have leaned heavily upon each other .. and we continuously seek our Lord! My word, how does one get through such an ordeal without being able to lean on our God? We are grateful to our Father for providing comfort through His Word, assurances that we will soon be in His presence, and; the unimpeded minute by minute opportunity to be at the foot of the Cross in prayer!

Family and Friends of the Schlecht’s-Roden’s:

I want so desperately to be able to serve you one day as you have us – only for differing circumstances. The SUPPORT … the CONDOLENCES … the willingness to SERVE … the absolute unconditional LOVE that all of you have extended has impacted us FOREVER! We will never be able to repay you in like manner, however, we will never cease in trying to do so – never!!! We thank you so much for all that you have done for these three families, and if there is ever a time in which you would need assistance, we can only hope that you include us in your appeals!

Moving on:

This is the most difficult terrain facing us presently. My son and I were in each other’s arms on the driveway tonight – my daughter and I short circuited our phones with tears – Chris and Casie Lea are unpacking boxes filled with memories of our little four year old who will always be remembered … and yet we all can still rejoice! We have a God who does not waste hurt, and as a result, He is, and has been using the deaths of my beloved Bride and Caia Nicole for the salvation of many, and the strengthening of many believer’s faith, even as I write! For that, I remain resolute in prayer that the Kingdom of God will use Lorrie and Caia Nicole for many, many more lives to be won over to Christ until such time He returns!

This will be my last update concerning all that has transpired with the Schlechts and Rodens since that most unfortunate day of April 20th, as I will be returning to work starting Monday. I would invite you to remain with us in prayer that our Lord will continue to use not only Lorrie and Caia Nicole in sharing the Cross, but that He would use you and me through our love and service for others as well.

We will forever be indebted to you for all that you have done for us – and we now take our turn in keeping you in our prayers.

May God protect and bless you …

Wayne Schlecht

{Dear God – please take but a brief moment each day to tell our ladies that we love them so much … thank you}.

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Friends, this story doesn’t stop here. These emails went as far as China, New Zealand and to many parts of the world. Many believers were empowered and strengthened while this testimony moved many to believe this beautiful gospel of forgiveness and new life in Christ that is being preached throughout the world.

While I sat at this memorial service, I wept as I heard Casie talk about her mom. She said just a short trip to the cleaners would be so much more fun when her mom came along. I felt the same way about my mom. Casie shared that when Caia suffered from eye cancer in both eyes, her mom went to every doctor’s appointment with her and she feared the doctors would think she was “one of those grandmas.” Casie appreciated her mom and how much fun they had together and that she would miss her best friend. My heart melted for her loss.

I cried as Casie shared the memories she had with her little Caia. She said she was special and everyone there at the memorial service testified that it was true. Indeed, this little girl was special in every way. I was broken thinking about how much I loved my own kids and how I would do anything for them. I saw this mother stand up in front of all of these people in pain with a shattered pelvis holding her new baby, while putting to rest this beautiful 4 year old girl who went to be with the Lord, all the while continuously pointing to Jesus as her source of comfort. This was all too much to take in.

And then Lorrie’s son, Trent...He talked about how much he appreciated everyone praying for them. The next thing he said just struck right to the heart. He told his dad in front of 800 people, “Dad, I just wanted to personally thank you for loving my mom. It gives me great comfort knowing that you loved my mom and treated her the way she deserved to be treated . Thanks, dad.”

What a beautiful testimony. During the memorial service, I witnessed this great confidence that they had. They knew that their mom and grandmother knew exactly how they felt about her. In my heart, I didn’t have that same confidence. Did my mom know how much I enjoyed trips to the store and to the doctor’s office so much more when she was with me? Did she know how much I appreciated her?

This death brought so much more to my life than they will ever know. This experience moved me to express to my mom how much I appreciate her and to be a better mother and wife. Over the last several days, I have felt compelled to write a poem about my mom. As I thought about this, I started to doubt myself so I prayed that the Lord would give me the words to say. I’m certainly not a poet, but I know without a doubt that this poem has been given to me for my mom by the power of the Holy Spirit.

This poem is written in honor of my mom, Carol , Casie Lea and in loving memory of Lorrie Schlecht. These are three wonderful moms and two beautiful grandmothers. Happy Mother’s Day to all of you mothers out there.


I’ll Never Forget...You Were There For Me


I’ll never forget my childhood and how much fun we used to have. I used to think you must have gotten so bored being home with us all the time. Little did I know, you gave up everything to give me the best. At every volleyball game, softball game, Christmas program, award ceremony, and for every sniffle...

You were there for me, mom.

I’ll never forget those nights I suffered with asthma. I would wake up to that scared look on your face knowing there was nothing you could do for me. Somehow you always made me feel better. You would just rub my back and cry with me...

You were there for me, mom.

I’ll never forget my rebellious teenage years when I wouldn’t listen to you. I was doing my own thing and you tried so hard to say the right things to help me. I chose my own way and treated you disrespectfully. But through it all, you loved me...

You were there for me, mom.

I’ll never forget taking off on weekends to go and visit Aunt Ellen or taking trips to the cabin. I remember how much fun we would have on the drive there and how hard we laughed when the waitress at the Chinese restaurant couldn’t pronounce Pepsi...

You were there for me, mom.

I’ll never forget you running through the hospital in Phoenix when I was delivering the twins, your first grandchildren. It was your 33rd wedding anniversary and you chose to get on a plane to come and see this grand event. I’ll never forget you holding your grandchildren for the first time...

You were there for me, mom.

I’ll never forget how much you helped me when my babies were born. You stayed with me and fed the babies, changed diapers, and stayed up at night just so I could sleep. And when you pulled your clothes out of the suitcase when you got home, you cried when you saw the little bootie stuck to your shirt...

You were there for me, mom.

I’ll never forget when I was down and out and had no one to turn to...two little boys to take care of, no money, and no place to live. You took us in and gave us a place to live and encouraged me to pick myself up and get back on my feet...

You were there for me, mom.

I’ll never forget my college graduation. I saw you in the crowd like I’d seen so many times before. Your little twin grandsons were sitting beside you. I saw you take pictures when they called my name and I took hold of that diploma...

You were there for me, mom.

I’ll never forget my wedding day. What a beautiful day for a wedding. Out in the crowd, I saw you again...like all the other times. I could see in your eyes how happy you were for me. You made my day complete just being there to share my day...

You were there for me, mom.

I’ll never forget as I ponder all of these memories. They come flooding back to me like a river. I treasure each of them in my heart and mom, on this Mother’s Day, I want you to know, I love you...and I will never forget...

You were there for me, mom.

Sunday, May 2, 2010

The Lord Hears


Psalm 57:3 …God sends His love and faithfulness

My pastor shared this with me this week and I feel honored and blessed to pass it on. It is a powerful story of God’s love and faithfulness.

Pastor Alan and a crew from our church go down to Mexico twice a year with a group called Case De Amor. They build houses for very poor people there. Two weekends ago, they were there again building houses and blessing the people.

During their stay, three people from the team were driving down a road in Mexico. They saw a young woman walking with her children. They could see from the terrain that it was a long, sandy road. They knew it was going to be a long while before she reached her destination. They decided to stop and ask her if she would like a ride. The American team did not speak Spanish and the young woman didn’t understand any English. The young woman just pointed for them and directed them down the roads that they needed to go on and they got her to her destination.

The team of Americans returned to the camp and they asked Pastor Alan, “Would it be okay if we got a few items together and some food to bring to this woman and her children?” Pastor Alan said, “Of course.” So they loaded up the vehicle and Pastor Alan went along with them to translate. Down the long, sandy roads they went. They drove and drove but just could not remember where this young woman lived. They were going back and forth, “I think I remember that horse in the pasture…I think I remember that house…that looks familiar.” After 45 minutes of driving Pastor Alan said, “Ok, how about this? How about we just stop at a house and take the food to someone and bless them?” The team really had it in their hearts to find the young woman, but they said, “Ok, under one condition…the family has to have children.” They all agreed to the plan.

They continued on their journey and then Pastor Alan pointed, “Look! There are two little boys running around in the yard.” They stopped the truck and the little children ran to the house to get their mom. The woman came out and he started speaking to her in Spanish. The Americans didn’t understand any of it. “We came to find this woman who was walking down the street and we have been unable to,” said Pastor Alan. The woman was desperate to try to help them locate her. Pastor Alan then interrupted her and said, “No, no, you don’t understand. We’ve been driving for 45 minutes and we can’t find her and we don’t even know her name. What we really stopped for was to bless you with this food.” Handing her the package of food, the woman began to cry.
Just then Pastor Alan noticed that she had a Casa De Amor house. He pointed and asked, “You have a Casa de Amor house. Pointing to himself, he said, “We are from Casa De Amor. We are building a house close by.”

Instantly, as if someone had surprised her, the woman asked him to wait while she ran into her house. She came back out with a picture album. She opened it up and pointing to the photos, she tearfully explained, “This is the team that came down here last year to build my house. Since then, my husband left me with five children and my 16 year old daughter just told me she is pregnant. I worked the other day and I took all the money that I made and bought food. I have no idea when I will work again. I have no way to support myself or my children. Last night, as I prayed, I opened up this photo album and I pointed to these pictures. I said, “Lord, would you bring these people? I need you to bring these people to me. I don’t even have shoes for my little boy to wear.” Pastor Alan smiled and said with tears in his eyes, “Well, here we are.” The other team members were asking him, “What’s going on? What’s she saying?” He turned around to translate for them and it was then they handed the woman a small bundle of cash, “And this is for your little boy’s shoes.”

That night, as they headed for camp, they were amazed at our awesome God. They shared this story around the campfire magnifying this amazing God we serve. He is faithful and able in every way. All of the people felt compelled to take up a collection of cash for her. The next day, they had purchased food and brought all of their leftover food to her house for her and her family. They had so much food that it filled a small room in her house.

While the team was there ministering to her, God gave them an idea. Pastor Alan asked the woman, “How would you feel if we came back and built a small store off of your house? We would give you some money and items to get started and you could have a store?” This woman wept as she realized God had provided for her food, shoes, money, and a way for her to make a living…and all she asked for was shoes.